Ever told yourself, “I’ll start eating healthy tomorrow,” only to push it off until next week. Or the week after that. Or, the first of the new year. If that sounds familiar, congratulations—you’re completely normal.
This back-and-forth feeling of “I want to change, but I also don’t want to change” is called ambivalence.
On one hand, you genuinely want to become a healthier, stronger version of yourself. On the other hand, the way things are now feels safe, comfortable, and familiar. And let’s be honest—change sounds like a lot of work.
Why Do We Get Stuck?
Ambivalence is part of the process, but it can also leave us feeling stuck. While you weigh the pros and cons of change—often without even realizing it—you might struggle to take the first step forward.
If this sounds like you, here are two simple but powerful questions to ask yourself:
1️⃣ What’s GOOD about NOT changing?
2️⃣ What’s BAD about changing?
These questions might seem counterintuitive, but the answers can be incredibly insightful. Every behavior—yes, even the ones we think of as self-sabotaging—serves a purpose.
Uncover What’s Holding You Back
Your answers will reveal what’s really standing in your way. You’ll begin to understand what your current behaviors are doing for you and what you might lose if you give them up.
For example:
- Maybe you want to stop snacking late at night, but that habit helps you unwind after a stressful day.
- Maybe you know that restricting calories isn’t healthy, but it gives you a sense of control when everything else feels chaotic.
No wonder it feels like you’re being pulled in two different directions.
The Key to Sustainable Change
The good news? Once you know what your current behaviors are doing for you, you can replace them with healthier habits that meet your needs—without sacrificing your bigger goals.
Spend some time with those two questions:
- What’s good about not changing?
- What’s bad about changing?
Your answers might just unlock the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for.
Ready to stop feeling stuck and start making real progress? Let’s work together to find the habits that support your goals—and your life. Reach out today, and let’s take that first step together! 💪